The Therapeutic Relationship

Photo of sculpture "Hercules and Achelous" by Master of the Martyrdom of St Sebastian, c. 17thC

Pursuing therapy for the first time (or maybe even the fifth time!) can be daunting. Whether you are looking to build insight, change behaviors, or improve relationships, congratulations for recognizing that need and for taking this sometimes scary step in the right direction. Let me tell you a little bit about what to expect and […]

Principles of Mindfulness

Photo of print, "Meditation in a Cave" by Ren Yu, c. 19thC

My life was changed when I learned mindfulness. Why? Consider this quote by Thich Nhat Hanh: “Mindfulness is the miracle by which we master and restore ourselves. Consider, for example: a magician who cuts his body into many parts and places each part in a different region—hands in the south, arms in the east, legs […]

Techniques for Managing your Emotions

Photo of woodblock print "The Insistent Lover" by Sugimura Jihei, c. late 17thC

In addition to the cognitive behavioral therapy you are probably doing with your counselor or psychologist, there are several things you can do in between sessions to promote positive emotions and reduce the impact of negative emotions. Techniques for managing your emotions: 1. Get enough sleep. Sleep is not just something that is nice to have; […]

Living According to Your Values

Photo of sketch "Senility or Peevishness" by Richard Dadd, c. 1855

Values ​​are our personal principles about what is good and right in the world and what is important to us. Research indicates that when our values ​​motivate our actions, we are more likely to experience a well-formed sense of self, greater life satisfaction, and reduced psychological distress. Yet, we often get to a point in […]

Dialectical Thinking and Behaviors

Photo of engraving "Dialectics" by Monogrammist B (Italian), c. 1544

Have you ever had a “love-hate” relationship? Of course you have… like you love your partner even though she may often nag you to help out, and you love your father even though it’s annoying how much he repeats himself. That’s because two apparently contradictory things can both be true at the same time. We […]

Mindful Self-Compassion as an Antidote to Shame

Photo of sculpture "A Hypocrite and a Slanderer" by Franz Xaver Messerschmidt, c. 18thC

The vast majority of my clients go through life with a lens of shame. Maybe it’s an obvious shame, like if you cheated on a partner and can’t forgive yourself. Maybe it’s a very deep, hidden shame that you aren’t even aware of until you’ve been in therapy for a long time, like some perceived […]

Celebrate your wins

Photo of Smiling figure (Sonriente) sculpture by a South central Veracruz artist(s), c. 600-1000CE

Most people underestimate the impact of neurotransmitters on their mental health. This is particularly true if you have a condition that causes a deficiency or irregularity of a neurotransmitter. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that is involved in feelings of pleasure and joy, and when you don’t have enough of it (as in ADHD), you probably […]

Justice Sensitivity – another ADHD strength!

Photo of needlework picture depicting Peace Justice and Plenty by Unknown Artist(s), c. 17thC England

Research has shown that neurodivergent (ND) individuals, particularly those with ADHD, are more likely to be justice sensitive. The term “justice sensitivity” refers to heightened awareness and concern for justice, fairness, equity, and inclusion, and some might extend it to heightened awareness and concern for misunderstandings and illogical or antisocial behaviors. If that sounds like […]

Metacognition and Neurodiversity

Photo of painting "Head of an Old Man" by Abraham Bloemaert, c. 17thC

One of the most common complaints I get from my “Twice Exceptional” (2e) clients is worry about their interfering metacognition. Metacognition refers to the awareness and understanding of one’s own thought processes. Metacognitive skills include self-awareness, cognitive regulation, and reflection. In neurodivergent (ND) individuals, metacognitive abilities can vary. Research suggests that it is less pronounced […]